Learning to effectively negotiate is not a skill we are born with, but learning to use leverage to
your advantage, particularly when negotiating your divorce, could make all the difference in
getting what you need out of your divorce settlement.

Start by asking yourself how you can leverage all of your knowledge and resources to your
benefit. Using leverage in divorce allows you to have more power in negotiating your
settlement. Always do your homework and know your bottom line as to what terms are
acceptable to you. Look at the pros and cons and think about what can go wrong. Leverage
yourself to reach the best outcome without putting you and your family out of balance.
In doing so, you can leverage your way into a happier life.

Here are a few tips on leveraging during your divorce:

Consider the big picture

While it may seem necessary to keep the antique furniture and the record collection, ask
yourself if it is needed once the dust of the divorce settles. Look at the bigger picture, where
will you be in a year? Five years? By leveraging the fact that life will change, it will give both
sides a new perspective while making big decisions.

Consider the other side

You once, or maybe still do, know the person you are divorcing very well. What is important to
them, and what will they want in the future? Asking yourself questions about your ex can give
you both insight on what they may fight for as well as helping you be prepared during
negotiation. Use this information for a smoother negotiation.

Consider the costs

Keep in mind how much a long drawn out divorce will cost. Looking at the expenses you will
incur from the mediator, lawyer, and the court may help both parties negotiate economically.
Negotiating a fair and kind settlement saves both parties time, money, and stress. And being
amicable toward one another can help your relationship moving forward, especially when
children are in the picture.

Divorce is never easy. And sometimes, it can be a messy process. But by going in knowing what
you need from the other person and being willing to use your strengths to leverage yourself
into a better position while still learning how to compromise can make all the difference.

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